Of course you have. “A man’s word,” or “A man is only as good as his word.” It’s an old cliche, rarely used outside of conversations with your Grandpa.
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And is it even true?
You could be as good as your money, or your status, or your image or your skill-set. But that’s all superficial stuff.
Your word is directly linked to your honour, trustworthiness and integrity.
Imagine a Man’s Word
You’re a brave soldier. You give your word to protect your outpost. But… you fall asleep and everyone is slaughtered.
Or you make a business deal, and give your word not to be a cheat. But you do cheat, and get caught.
You tell your woman you’re going to be loyal and monogamous… then she finds you at the local brothel, playing the piano with a harlot on your lap.
I was at the gym, babe
Your word is your:
Without your word, you’re nobody
“I always keep my word! Ooof!”
Just another human flicking around your society, breaking promises and making grand empty gestures. You’re a liar and a cheat, a small time value sucker of low character, best set to clean toilets, or sell cigarettes in prison.
I’ve had a few clients sign up for my coaching programs, and then back out at the last minute. They tell me they have financial problems, or life problems, or whatever they come up with. They can’t tell the truth and say:
“I’m scared Tony.”
A Man’s Word To Himself
If a student flakes on me, I won’t re-accept him as a student, not for any money.
I’m glad they flaked. They have no integrity. They’re not to be trusted.
There’s nothing dishonourable about saying, “I’m afraid.” But giving your man’s word, and then breaking it because of fear…
He’s breaking his word to himself. That he would take part of his life that’s broken, and fix it.
When a man breaks his word, he destroys credibility, with himself
Say you will do something, you do itMake a date or meeting, you arrive on timeGive a promise, you keep itStart a project, you finish it
Men of their word are known to be trusted, superior, and reliable. A man who breaks his word is known to be weak, unreliable, and inferior.
If you do it, that’s how you’ll feel about yourself.
Your actions have consequences
My teen nephew loves his absentee Dad. Every time they talk on social media, he promises to come visit. But he never does. It’s always some excuse, like work, or money. The truth is, he’s lazy, disorganized, and dysfunctional.
And every time he breaks his word, his son loses respect.
Son, I’ll never leave you… unless your mother leaves me
Respect is hard to gain, easy to lose
Boys make excuses, men take responsibility.
Being a man of your word will allow you to rise above your station, to achieve great power, and mastery over others and yourself. It will grant you access to powerful people, and lift you to the realms of epic greatness.
Keeping Your Word is Easy
If you make a contract with yourself that you will approach women every day for thirty days, make more money, go to the gym five days a week, succeed at work, write a book, quit smoking, or finish a large project, and you honour your word—you will achieve power, influence and glory.
However, if you can’t keep your word even to yourself, why would anyone trust you?
He-Man always kept his word
A man without his word is destined for a life of menial labour, serving the needs of powerful men (and women).
You won’t attract great lovers, or create works of art that inspire. You’ll just be another guy, wandering through life, aimlessly.
He doesn’t exist, because he never commits.
Women and their word
You haven’t heard the saying, “A woman’s word,” because traditionally, women depended on men for their survival.
While men hunted, worked, and provided, women ran the household and raised kids. If a man didn’t keep his word, she’d be.. screwed. Probably by every lonely guy in town with a few coins. A man’s word meant the difference between a good life, and bad one.
If your woman’s word is stronger than yours, then get ready to find a new girlfriend.
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Always Whenever Possible, Keep Your Word
Then what’s the solution? It’s simple. Keep your word, or don’t give it.
You’ve been talking about writing that book… so write it!
You’re going to lose the gut… so do it!
You want to find a girlfriend… so go out at find her!
Do what you say you’re going to do
Should you break your word, then be accountable and correct the issue as best you can.
how often do you break your word? If it’s often, then I ask you…are you rich, do you have a great and happy girlfriend and are you surrounded by loyal friends that will grant you favors and help you on your path?
If not, it’s not too late to change this. Just start keeping your word, and make this your most valuable character trait.
Benefits of Keeping Your Word
Stronger, more loyal relationshipsA sense of identityA richer family and social lifeBe more trusted in your social circlesMore social opportunity
There’s very little downside to keeping your word.
Maybe you’ll have to move a friend’s couch in the rain, or stay at work and cram in overtime. Perhaps you won’t get to finish that last level in your favorite video game. But the result of keeping your word is that you’ll have respect.
Keeping Your Word is Like Money in The Bank
Every time you keep your word, it’s like putting money into the bank. Your reputation is that you’re reliable, honest, and trustworthy. When you need a favor, people will be happy to help, because they understand your character and if they ask you for something, you’ll keep your promises.
You Can Always Say No
It’s better to say no, then to break your word. At least you’re honest.
I had a friend who recently asked me to watch his children while he went to a swinger party. I always hate saying no to friends, but I was working on a big project, and didn’t want to commit this time. So I said no.
He’s still my friend.
Saying no mean’s you won’t break your word.
A Man Who Keeps His Word Gains Respect
Respect is a powerful emotion. It mean’s people trust you. With trust, comes responsibility, sure. But a little responsibility can lead to amazing growth. There’s nothing wrong with it.
Have You Been Running From Responsibility?
Perhaps it’s time to evaluate your reputation. Are you know as the guy who isn’t dependable? Who breaks his word?
Would you rather be the go to guy for problem solving? The winner? The man of honor?