Most guys who’ve never had a girlfriend come extremely close to getting one but always fall down at the last hurdle.
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You go on a few dates – you’re texting each other everyday – but then something you do suddenly turns her from hot to cold and you can’t figure out why.
This happens so often to you that you start expecting women to stop texting you back or disappear into oblivion, because no matter what you do differently it always ends the same way.
That’s because the trickiest stage of getting a girlfriend is the transition from when you’re “sort of dating” her to actually “in a relationship”.
So if you’re sick of getting friend-zoned, watching the girls you like end up with jerks and fed up with being the only girlfriend-less guy in your group of friends then keep reading.
Never Had a Girlfriend? Here’s Why…
You’re about to discover 14 reasons why you’ve never had a girlfriend and what you need to do differently to get one.
Guilty of pushing girls away at the last hurdle? Click Here to Jump to Reason #9. You’ll learn where you went wrong (especially with texting).
Reason #1: You Assume Girls Don’t Like You
How many times have you made these excuses not to talk to girls:
“It’s no use talking to her, she won’t be interested in me”.“She’s out of my league”“She looks like she has a boyfriend”.
I used to be guilty of making these excuses ALL the time – but as soon as I stopped – AMAZING things started happening.
That’s because the reality of the situation is often the EXACT opposite of the story in your head.
Girls have told me they had a huge crush on me but they assumed I never made a move because I wasn’t interested in them, when actually I was assuming the exact same thing!
You will never know the truth of how a girl feels about you without talking to her. Without communication.
So I urge you to always seek the truth rather than always making assumptions, for example:
When you saw another guy talking to a girl you liked in a bar…
You assumed she was into him – that you were too late – and it wasn’t worth embarrassing yourself by going over.
But what if that guy was actually her creepy boss? And she was only being polite and secretly hoping you’d come over and save her from a painfully awkward situation.
When the girl you liked stopped texting you back…
You assumed she wasn’t interested in you anymore, so you gave up. But actually she just got out of a bad relationship and felt like she was falling for you. She was just being cautious.
So from now on whenever you find yourself assuming you’ll get rejected flip the switch and assume the EXACT opposite – a scenario where you are a source of happiness for her NOT a source of pain, for example:
The girl in the bar desperately wants you to go and talk to her. Her night would be boring if she didn’t meet you and she’ll be blown away by how awesome you are.
This will help you face these situations with positivity and become an extremely attractive guy to be around.
#2: You Haven’t Found the Right Girl Yet
Don’t beat yourself up about the fact you’ve never had a girlfriend. You simply haven’t met the right girl for you yet.
I didn’t meet my first real girlfriend until I was 29 going on 30.
The thing is girlfriends don’t miraculously fall from the sky and into your lap.
So ask yourself. What have you actually done to try and meet the girl of your dreams?
Have you been going out regularly or attended social events where you meet lots of new people?Have you joined a gym, yoga class or sports club?Have you gone to places women flock to like cafes, shopping malls, parks?
These days it doesn’t matter if you live in a small town, are too afraid to approach women, hate bars and clubs or are too busy with work to meet women.
Online dating apps like Tinder give you the opportunity to meet new women regardless of where you are, what your situation is, or how uncomfortable you are with talking to women in person.
What being single most of my life taught me is that the more girls you meet, the more you will begin to know what kind of girl you want as your girlfriend. And Tinder allows you to go from fishing in a pond to fishing in the sea!
So get out there and meet as many women as you can, otherwise you will latch on to the first girl that gives you any attention and potentially settle for a mediocre relationship rather than the girl of your dreams.
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#3: You Lack Confidence Because of Your Girlfriend-Less Past
It’s no secret that women LOVE confident men.
And your girlfriend-less past is probably crushing your confidence around women.
You feel like women can tell you’ve been single all your life and you dread them finding out and pitying you.
I get it – but seriously man – this is NOT a big deal.
There is NO reason why this should effect your confidence in anyway.
Because you simply haven’t met a girl who’s good enough for you yet. You have high standards and will not settle for anything less than the girl of your dreams.
This is the reality of the situation and the mindset you need to adopt.
Besides, there are plenty of other things to make you feel confident about yourself around women even if you have very limited experience with the opposite sex.
Source your confidence elsewhere.
From your awesome career, your dedication to the gym, your new healthy life style, your new haircut, the size of your package, etc. Whatever makes you feel good about yourself, thrive off that.
Projecting confidence is also about body language and breathing. Put your shoulders back, chest out, raise your jaw, look people dead in the eyes and speak S L O W L Y with conviction.
This will not just make you appear more confident but FEEL more confident.
#4: Your Mates Are Dicks
Do your mates constantly make fun of the fact you’ve never had a girlfriend?
Do they pester you with questions like “have you met a girl yet bro?”, “when are you going to get a girlfriend?” or “when was the last time you got laid?”
When you’re out with your mates in social situations where there are women around do they put you down in front of the girls you like?
And this is going to sound harsh but I need to ask it:
Think for a second, what is your position in the group of friends you regularly hang out with? Are you the leader of the group or are you the guy who tags along and hangs in the background?
The guy who has to shuffle behind your two mates when you’re in a group of three and the sidewalk is too narrow.
The reason I ask this is because your position in the group of friends you hang out with when meeting women is crucial.
In high school I was always the “tag along” guy and because my social status in school was pretty much bottom of the ladder, the girls I liked flat out ignored me.
But in college I was able to reinvent myself and start fresh. Find a new group of friends who had no idea about how lame I was at school – and become one of the key decision makers in the group.
Women naturally lean on leaders, so if you are not one of the leaders in the current group of friends then consider finding some new friends to go out with.
A group in which people look up to you not put you down in front of others.
#5: You Are Mr Agreeable
If you are not a leader in your social group then you probably always agree with the decision makers to avoid confrontation (even when you really really don’t want to do something).
This sets women’s alarm bells ringing because succumbing to peer pressure and agreeing with people all the time makes it seem like you are trying to please people into liking you.
Women crave dominant men who are willing to risk rejection or confrontation to get what they want and what they think is right.
So next time you find yourself blindly agreeing to someone’s point of view (especially a woman’s) or agreeing to do something you’d rather not – actively STOP yourself on the spot and say NO.
Never be afraid to tell people when they’ve crossed the line.
Although it may piss people off for a short moment it will pay off BIG time in the long run because women will think “this guy isn’t a pushover. He has high expectations and doesn’t let anyone tell him what to do”.
Put simply, this is INCREDIBLY attractive.
Here’s an example of what this looks like in action. In this texting scenario the girl was late for a date so I called her out in a playful way:
Other than reminding yourself to say “NO” more often you can also dramatically improve the way women respond to you with the language you use.
When talking to girls remember that words like “maybe” instantly tell her you’re indecisive and that she’s in control.
Indecisiveness shows you’re not confident in yourself, you’re not a leader of men and perhaps don’t even deserve to hang out with the women you desire.
So replace passive words and phrases like “maybe”, “perhaps”, “possibly”, “would you like to?” etc., with assertive, masculine language that exhibits the leadership qualities women look for in men.
Use words like “listen”, “let’s”, “we should”, “we’re going to”, “you’re coming to”, etc.
Women are always secretly waiting for someone to tell them what to do. Here’s a text that does just that:
To recap, as a dominant man and leader of your group you:
*Are willing to risk rejection to get what you want and what you think is right*Have high expectations of what things should be
So from now on stop worrying about what others will think of you and caring about how they’ll react to your honest opinion.
You’ll be surprised by how much more people will start to listen to you and look to you for decisions.